What people don’t tell you…volume 2

You don’t currently have kids but you have a plan

You will have a natural child birth
A C-section is not going to happen to you
Your kids will go to bed at 8
They will never eat sugar or candy
They will eat veggies
You won’t yell or spank them
They will be a doctor and a genius

Does any of this sound right?

Let me bring you down to reality, this is not to seem harsh but most of this won’t happen. We all mean well and before we have kids we have a plan and it’s a great one. THEN you have kids and it all, or most, goes out the window.
Take a deep breath and realize that it’s all OK. It’s fine if your plan doesn’t work out, it’s fine if it does. Parenting means you do whats right for you! There will be an opinion from everyone around you (amazing more from the people without kids, if you are reading this please don’t judge until you have some of your own!). As long as your routine works, your kids are well behaved and they feel loved then you pat yourself on the back. My daughter goes to bed between 9 – 10 and doesn’t fall asleep until between 12am -2am. I have been told the following – Don’t let her nap, let her nap for an hour, wake her up early, take every toy out of her room, turn off every light including night lights, give her melatonin. I gotta tell you I have tried most of these things, i’m sorry i’m not taking every toy out of her room or letting her sleep without an night light, but everything else including melatonin was tried. My kid loves to stay up at night, its in her blood. I don’t fight it anymore. She goes to bed and watches a movie and plays quietly. She is well behaved and occasionally calls me to ask for a kiss, hug or a quick drink. Did I expect to have a (1 month shy of being a) 3 year old that doesn’t sleep? No? but ya know what I do, and I have embraced it. Things work for us, she sleeps in the morning and I get to spend some time with my little man. Once she starts school it will work itself out.

So to recap, you all have plans. We all did, most of the time they don’t work or they change and its completely and utterly fine. Don’t beat yourself up just embrace your new and wonderful life! I sure am 🙂

8 responses to “What people don’t tell you…volume 2

  1. It sounds like some people have been critical of you, but you have the right attitude about it. There is nothing perfect in this world and some people should just keep their mouths shut. I learned a long time ago that nothing will go according to my plan. I was supposed be rich, beautiful, smart and married with children in this perfect suburban house, and all by the time I was 24. I got some of it down – lol!

    Although, I do have to say that I have one pet peeve about parents and it’s the ones who bring their kids to restaurants and don’t pay attention to them. If they wanted “date night” then they should have found a babysitter. The other night three of my friends and myself went out to eat and this one kid smacked the other kid who in turn started screaming a bloody murder for several minutes. I actually stood up to see where it was coming from and both parents were sitting there talking to one another enjoying themselves. Really? It’s just rude.

    Wow, I didn’t think I would go on for that long about it.

    • Well you are rich in person beautiful and smart do you are well on your way woman!
      I completely agree people that take their kids out should always watch them. I won’t go out if thy are having a bad day because I don’t want to ruin someone else’s meal.
      People are always critical that’s why I wrote this. I wanted people to know that it’s okay if things don’t go right. Just follow your own path and do what’s best for you and your family.
      Xxoo thanks for reading and commenting. Love ya for it!

  2. You are so right. I was all “I’m having a water birth and being an earth mother” well breech baby and Mastitis by the truck load stopped that. Second one I chilled and went with the flow and now have two pretty well rounded kiddies – currently eating ice cream cornets for tea! 😀

    • I want to stress to everyone that is thinking about having kids that it’s ok to not go with the plan. People panic and it’s so not worth it. Like you said when you “go with the flow” things just are more fun and work without effort.

      Thanks for commenting!

  3. Everyone has to do what is best for their family. What works for one person doesn’t for another. I believe if your heart is in the right place, everything works out in the end. I am a night person. I just am. I notice the kids are the same way. In the summer I let it go. During the school year, I don’t have to try because they are so tired they are ready for bed when the time comes. It just works itself out.

    I read your blog and from what I get from that I think you are doing a great job. There are so many parents who don’t care. Their kids are up late not because their kids want to be, but because the parents aren’t being parents. They don’t care. I can see that you care.

    It is so difficult to be a parent. Everyone has an opinion. They know what you should or should not do, but they don’t know you or your family or your household. I want to stick my tongue out at those people. I hope I didn’t ramble lol.

    • Thank you. It means a lot that you can see how much I care through my little piece of the Internet. I live my kids. They are my life and I like to express to all those people that think I’m doing a shit job tht once they have kids they will be banging down my door for advice.
      And btw you never ramble. I love and appreciate your comments!

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