You don’t currently have kids but you have a plan
You will have a natural child birth
A C-section is not going to happen to you
Your kids will go to bed at 8
They will never eat sugar or candy
They will eat veggies
You won’t yell or spank them
They will be a doctor and a genius
Does any of this sound right?
Let me bring you down to reality, this is not to seem harsh but most of this won’t happen. We all mean well and before we have kids we have a plan and it’s a great one. THEN you have kids and it all, or most, goes out the window.
Take a deep breath and realize that it’s all OK. It’s fine if your plan doesn’t work out, it’s fine if it does. Parenting means you do whats right for you! There will be an opinion from everyone around you (amazing more from the people without kids, if you are reading this please don’t judge until you have some of your own!). As long as your routine works, your kids are well behaved and they feel loved then you pat yourself on the back. My daughter goes to bed between 9 – 10 and doesn’t fall asleep until between 12am -2am. I have been told the following – Don’t let her nap, let her nap for an hour, wake her up early, take every toy out of her room, turn off every light including night lights, give her melatonin. I gotta tell you I have tried most of these things, i’m sorry i’m not taking every toy out of her room or letting her sleep without an night light, but everything else including melatonin was tried. My kid loves to stay up at night, its in her blood. I don’t fight it anymore. She goes to bed and watches a movie and plays quietly. She is well behaved and occasionally calls me to ask for a kiss, hug or a quick drink. Did I expect to have a (1 month shy of being a) 3 year old that doesn’t sleep? No? but ya know what I do, and I have embraced it. Things work for us, she sleeps in the morning and I get to spend some time with my little man. Once she starts school it will work itself out.
So to recap, you all have plans. We all did, most of the time they don’t work or they change and its completely and utterly fine. Don’t beat yourself up just embrace your new and wonderful life! I sure am 🙂